FAQs
What does trauma-informed therapy mean in your practice?
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The short version: it means I'm never going to look at you and ask "what's wrong with you?" The real question is always "what happened to you and what did you figure out how to do to survive it?"
A lot of things that get labeled as symptoms or dysfunction are actually pretty smart adaptations. Your nervous system learned what it needed to learn. Trauma-informed therapy respects that, and works with it instead of trying to bulldoze through it.
In practice, that means a few things: we don't rush. There's no pressure to confront things before you're ready. You stay in the driver's seat, your pace, your choices, your autonomy. And we pay attention to the stuff that often goes unspoken in therapy: power dynamics, safety, whether this space actually feels like yours.
The goal isn't to fix you. It's to give you room to figure out what you actually need and to make decisions from a grounded place rather than a reactive one.
What do sessions typically look like?
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Honestly? It depends
Some sessions are mostly talking through what's been happening. Others get more structural: mapping out relationship dynamics, noticing patterns, figuring out where your boundaries actually are (versus where you think they should be). Sometimes we sit with something uncomfortable rather than rushing to resolve it, because not everything has a clean solution.
Is relational coaching the same as therapy?
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No. Coaching is educational and strategic. We're working on something specific: how you navigate relationships, communicate, make decisions, set limits, understand patterns. It's skill-building and perspective-shifting less like treatment, more like having a really informed thinking partner who actually knows the territory you're in.
Relational coaching is built around relational complexity: non-monogamy, polyamory, relationship anarchy, multi-partner dynamics, and the kinds of situations that most coaches and therapists frankly aren't equipped for.
Therapy goes deeper into mental health territory, trauma processing, psychiatric conditions, clinical assessment. Coaching doesn't do that, and isn't designed to.
How does your public work intersect with therapy?
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It's a fair thing to wonder about especially if you found me through Polyamorous Black Girl.
Yes, I share publicly. Sometimes vulnerably. That work is real and it's mine. But the therapy room is a different space entirely. It's yours. What I put into the world publicly doesn't follow us in here, and knowing my opinions, my story, or my takes doesn't change what therapy is structured to do , which is to stay focused on you.
You might come in already knowing things about me. That's fine, and we can even talk about what it's like to work with someone whose public life you've encountered. But familiarity isn't intimacy, and it doesn't collapse the container. The boundaries of therapy hold regardless.
So: I'm a person with a public presence. And I'm also your therapist. Those two things can coexist without bleeding into each other.
You’re polyamorous - do you only work with non-monogamous people?
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No.
My work is about power, relationships, harm, and how people navigate all of that regardless of what their relationship structure looks like. Non-monogamy informs how I think and what I've lived, but it's not a filter for who I work with. Monogamous people deal with control, betrayal, coercion, disconnection, and all the same relational complexity everyone else does.
What I do bring is a rejection of mononormativity, the assumption that monogamy is the default, the goal, or the more evolved choice. That's a politic I hold.
The relationship style is context. The work is the work.
Directly.
I believe care shouldn't be determined by income. In an ideal world, therapy would be free. We don't live in that world, and I'm not going to pretend the current system is neutral.
Nest and Bone is a private practice, which means it has to be financially sustainable to exist at all. Standard-rate sessions keep the practice running and directly fund the Nest Fund , a pool that makes subsidized and low-cost care possible. Some of that also comes from the public work through Polyamorous Black Girl. When people support that work financially, it extends what's available here.
The Nest Fund isn't a grant or an outside institution. It's not bottomless. It grows when standard-rate sessions get booked and shrinks when they don't.
So: reduced-fee and free spots exist, but they're limited and sometimes have a wait. I won't promise immediate placement in a subsidized spot, because I can't always deliver that and I'd rather be honest than leave you hanging on something uncertain.
Money is an ethical question in this practice, not just a transaction. And I try to hold that without burning myself down in the process.