Approach & Philosophy

“So much of the work of oppression is policing the imagination”

- Saidiya Hartman

A quick overview of how I do things, what my politics are and my boundaires. Obv not exhaustive. So feel free to reach out on the inquirt form or booking at 15 minute consultation if you want to know more about how I work and whether or not we would be a good fit.

On Therapy

Therapy is a structured space to make sense of what has happened to you and how it continues to shape your choices, relationships, and sense of self. We do not begin from an assumption about what you should do, who you should forgive, or whether a relationship should end. Many people arrive uncertain: unsure whether they want repair, distance, clarity, or simply relief from confusion. The work begins there. My role is not to push toward resolution, but to create conditions where your thinking becomes clearer, your perception steadier, and your options more visible..

On Professionalism, & Practice

I do not practice from a model of therapy that relies on emotional distance, rigid neutrality, or aesthetic conformity as proof of competence. Historically, many professional spaces — including therapeutic ones — have equated authority with detachment and adherence to narrow cultural norms. My work does not require you to translate yourself into that mold.You may experience me as grounded, direct, thoughtful, and occasionally conversational. I am not invested in performing expertise through distance or silence. At the same time, clinical structure, confidentiality, and ethical commitments remain firm.Therapy here is rigorous and relational. It does not require performance from either of us.

On Money & Access

Therapy exists within economic systems that are not neutral.In an ideal world, care would not be constrained by income. At the same time, private practice requires sustainability. I charge fees that reflect training, experience, and the labor involved in ethical clinical care.I treat money as a relational and ethical question rather than a purely transactional one. The Nest Fund and other redistribution structures are part of how this practice engages collective care while remaining viable.If cost is a barrier, we can discuss whether there are current options or referral pathways that better fit your circumstances.

Trauma as Context

Much of what is labeled dysfunction is a survival response to harm. Chronic self-doubt, emotional volatility, shame, relational confusion, eating disorders, and patterns that feel difficult to interrupt often develop in response to instability, coercion, or long-term misattunement. Rather than asking, “What is wrong with you?” we ask, “What happened?” and “What did you have to do to survive it?” This lens is central to my work with complex trauma (CPTSD), relational violence, grief, and abuse.

On Session Structure

Sessions may involve conversation, mapping relational dynamics, clarifying boundaries, or sitting with uncertainty. We may move slowly. We may revisit the same moment more than once. We may pause when something feels charged rather than rushing past it.Progress is not measured by insight alone, but by whether you feel more grounded in your own perception and more able to choose deliberately rather than react automatically.

On Public Work

I engage in public-facing educational work through Polyamorous Black Girl. While I share vulnerably in public spaces, therapy remains a contained, client-centered environment. Familiarity with my public work does not alter the structure or focus of therapy.

Harm, Abuse & Power

A central distinction in my practice is between harm and abuse. Harm can occur without pattern, coercion, or control. Abuse involves ongoing dynamics of domination, exploitation, or constraint where one person systematically gains power at the expense of another. When this distinction is blurred, responsibility often shifts onto the person being harmed. Therapy should not treat power imbalance as a communication issue, nor ask someone to empathize their way deeper into danger.

Fit?

This approach may be a good fit if you are seeking:

  • Thoughtful, steady therapy rather than prescriptive intervention

  • Clarity in situations involving power imbalance or abuse

  • Space to question relational norms without being steered toward a predetermined outcome

  • Support that recognizes the broader contexts shaping your life

It may not be a good fit if you are seeking rapid behavioural change strategies or directive coaching within therapy.